Sometimes I wish I could go back to being 25. And sometimes I don't miss my 20s at all. I was crazy! But it's all good. I got it out of my system for the most part. I doubt I will be having a mid life crisis at 45 wishing I had partied more when I was younger.
And now at age 36, I am a certified homebody; we make dinner at home nearly every night and "going out" is borrowing movies from the local library (which if you're old like me brings back warm and fuzzy memories).
No, I don't regret the, let's be frank, idiotic behavior of my 20s. I'm kind of thankful for it. But that doesn't mean if I could go back I wouldn't give my younger self some words of advice when it comes to beauty and taking care of the one and only body that I have...yup, you get one!
I do believe women in their 20s today are much more health conscious than they were in the last decade, so as a whole, you're off to a great start. And if you're reading this, then I believe you are way ahead of where I was.
This first one isn't so much of a ritual, it's more of a lesson that I've learned over the years. Don't worry too much about makeup! Why? Let me count the ways.
- It's a pain to take off.
- If you get used to wearing it, then you feel self conscious without it.
- I can't tell you how many guys have told me they don't like makeup. Let me rephrase that, they want to see the real you. So use makeup that enhances you instead of hides you.
- Um, it gets expensive.
- Truth is you don't really need it.
The only time I think I really need makeup is when I'm going to an event where there are professional photographers. Which never really happens actually (remember, I'm a certified homebody), but occasionally I'll go to a wedding. Then I will go the extra mile and put on eye shadow. Ha.
The best makeup is when it looks like you're not wearing it at all! Just a bit enhanced ;) So for me that's just a tinted facial sunscreen, a bit of bronzer, definitely blush and mascara. This is what I wear if I'm going out for a rare night on the town. Otherwise, I just wear the tinted facial sunscreen.
I made a lot of mistakes in my 20s, but one thing I seemed to do right was wrinkle prevention. Certainly not trying to toot my own horn here, but I don't have as many wrinkles as I could have!
How'd I do it?
First, I was pretty meticulous about wearing sunscreen on my face and sunglasses every time I was outside. No squinting in the sun!
I also made a point to not furrow my brow so I don't have deep wrinkles between my brows.
I think these two things made a world of difference, especially the not squinting in the sun. Doing that over and over is bad news!
If there was one thing I would go back and change is try to transition to a healthy lifestyle sooner than later. Some of you might already be there. Some of you may be halfway there. I didn't fully commit to a healthy lifestyle until I was about 27. That's when I really got into natural beauty and eating better.
I definitely don't spend my days regretting all the fun I had back in my 20s. But I do wish I took my health a little more seriously. With hindsight, I would have cut back on the drinking and gotten off of the birth control (which I seriously think wreaked havoc on my hormones unfortunately). I would have really cut down on meat, fast food and junk food intake earlier.
Of course, back then, my generation was not as health conscious as younger people are today. There were no socially famous health celebrities or bloggers that at least I knew of. Yep, there was just Myspace.
I'm just thankful I made the switch when I did!
Learn to Appreciate Your Looks
When I look back on my 20s, I also see a girl who wasn't happy with herself. It's something I still deal with to a certain degree (it's probably safe to say we all do in some way), but back then I wanted to more conventionally pretty. Now I look back at photos in my 20s and realize, hey I was pretty! Why was a so hard on myself? Such is life.
I still don't like getting my picture taken. I like the way I look l now, but when I was younger I was not happy with the way I looked at all. Not until about my mid to late 20s did I begin to feel comfortable in my body. But all those years before still had a major impact on me. I still feel like an insecure little girl sometimes, but I'm not trying to change who I am for anyone. In my early to mid 20s I definitely was. I hated my long nose and face, would get highlights all the time and basically tried to look not like me, which is really sad.
Being a woman is hard, no doubt about it. At 36, it's still hard. But I'm much more at peace now about who I am and accepting myself. And I think that's the biggest gift you can give yourself.
The Bottom Line
Don't try to cover yourself up with makeup, clothes and highlights. Don't try to be someone you're not. Try to figure out who you are and what makes you feel good in your gut. It takes time and I believe that's what our 20s are for. They're for making mistakes and learning. And they are for having fun! But I say that with caution, not at the expense of your body.
Lastly, the better you take of yourself when you're younger, the less you'll have to deal with the consequences later.
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